SHE (Surviving, Healing, and Evolving)®
SHE (Surviving, Healing, and Evolving)®

       "Heretofore, out of shame and shame and shame, and a need to appear invulnerable and impervious to pain, Black men have done the best they could to manage all their suffering.   Now, we need them to be free to name their pain and to care for their whole selves.  Sisters, we can help with this healing work for Black men.  Indeed, in ALL our relationships with Black men and boys -- as wives, significant others, sisters, daughters, mothers, aunts, cousins, friends, teachers -- we are essential to the healing work." 

 

Dr. Rhonda Sherrod quoted at a SHE (Surviving, Healing, and Evolving) seminar conducted by The Need To Know Group about the significance of the Obamas' relationship.

JUNE IS MEN'S HEALTH MONTH

 

Posted June 7, 2018

 

“The guy walked in the room, and the look in his eyes said it all.

He wasn’t looking at me like, Keyon’s lost his damn mind.

He wasn’t looking at me like, Keyon’s a psychopath.

He was looking at me like, Keyon, what’s going on? What can I do to help, my friend?

It was [Coach] Doc Rivers.

I will remember that look for the rest of my life.”  

Excerpted from:  Running From A Ghost

 

 

In a powerful and moving essay, former Boston Celtics guard and NBA journeyman, Keyon Dooling, details his harrowing experiences with paranoid delusions and debilitating anxiety that landed him in a "mental institution."  He also speaks, with deep gratitude, about the warmth and compassion his coach, Doc Rivers, displayed toward him as he struggled.

 

June is Men’s Health Month and we herald the journey of Keyon Dooling, as well as the courage he displays as he helps destigmatize mental suffering by using his platform to share his story.  We also salute Coach Doc Rivers for his masterful handling of a delicate situation.

 

We encourage you to check out Dooling's article:  Running From A Ghost in The Players' Tribune online.

 

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                    "She is a friend of mind.  She gather me, man.  The pieces I am, she gather

                      them and give them back to me in all the right order.  It's good, you know,

                      when you got a woman who is a friend of your mind."      

                                                                                               From Beloved by Toni Morrison

 

 

Aah Brothers!

 

 

(c) by Rhonda Sherrod

 

 

On yesterday, I bounced onto the bus, en route to downtown Chicago from my suburban home, briefcase flying one way and my purse another.  When the bus lurched forward as I was advancing toward a seat, my attempts at maintaining my equilibrium ended with the papers I had been reading at the bus stop high-flight sailing all over the back of the bus while I tried to take a seat with as much poise as I could muster.  Nevertheless, it was a decidedly less than graceful moment.  

 

Just as I was sucking in air and about to breathe a disgusted little sigh, two brothers bolted from their seats, practically fighting over who would rescue this damsel.  Finally, the victor caught the papers, before they even hit the filthy floor of the bus, and served them up to me.  

 

“Thank you, thank you so much,” I gushed to my hero.  Then I turned to his competitor and enthusiastically thanked him, too – for competing.

 

Both smiled that coolness that brothers exude as another brother, flanking me on the other side, engaged me:

 

“Got somewhere important to go?” he ventured, smiling sweetly.

 

“Yes.”

 

“Going downtown?”

 

“Yes, I am.”

 

He waited… so, I continued:  “I have an important business luncheon.  I just started my own business not too long ago.”

 

“Wow?  I hope it goes well,” he said with such sincerity and genuineness it startled me.  This stranger, whom I had never seen before, seemed so invested in my success – a throwback to the way it used to be.

 

“I do, too. I do, too.”  I smiled, warmly.

 

“Well,” he said emphatically.  “I always start with ‘I will.’  You know, ‘I will have a good meeting.  I will get what I need to make this business go.’”

 

“Okay,” I said, by now lost in his thoughts.

 

Eventually, I returned to reading the papers that had cascaded out of my hands.  When I looked up again, I stared at each of the three Black men with whom I had just interacted, scrutinizing them.  One was looking out the window with his headphones on, his face tight and weary from life, but still comfortably lost in his music for the moment, I supposed.  Another was, no doubt, exchanging amusing texts judging from the delighted little expression on his young boyish face; and my “philosopher,” the sweet, elderly philosopher, was scanning his environment with what I came to realize was a perpetual smile on his face.

 

Suddenly, I was overwhelmed – overwhelmed with a sense of grief and sadness.  My thoughts centered around how unfair it is for Black men to constantly fight the vicious stereotypes long put forth by the dominant culture that portray them as anything but who they are:  good, kind, generous human beings doing what we are all doing.  They are trying to make it in a tough, often cold world.  Then, to have to carry that reprobate baggage that others have draped around their necks, like a huge oppressive weight, well, anybody can grasp just how unfair that is…

 

On my way home, from a successful meeting, I sat down on the bus and heard an excited,  “Hey!”  I looked up into the smiling face of my philosopher.  What were the chances that I would run into him again on my way back…  

 

He interrupted my thoughts:  “How did it go?”  he asked with the same intense sincerity he had manifested earlier.

 

“It went really, really well.”

 

“Wonderful,” he exclaimed.  “I knew it would.  I’ll see you later.”

 

He bounced off the bus, still smiling.

 

Aah, brothers… I wish you were free of other people’s sickness (and free from internalizing other people’s sickness to your detriment).

 

The essay is from the book:  Surviving, Healing, and Evolving ©

 

 

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Question for the Month (October):

 

              "Brothers, when was the last time you cried and why?"

 

Send your answer through the Contact Us tab, and we will post a few of them.

 

 

Responses:

 

"I teared up last night-- when I read this page!  This is good work, Rhonda."  Eric

 

"Rhonda, thank you for this."  Akbar

 

SHE for Him, what a concept.  Love it. Love you.  Derek

 

Love the essay and the quotes from you and Toni Morrison.  Thanks, Rhonda.  Perry

 

"It's a lot of brothers out here like that are fighting this cold, cold world.  Thanks for the inspiring words you blessed us with; and actually I just cried the other day looking at a picture of my son and thinking back to that age and saying he has his whole life ahead on him.  Tears of joy from a young Black man."  Cortez

 

                     SHE for Him

 

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EXCITING NEWS!!

 

The BOOK by 

Dr. Rhonda Sherrod:

 

 Surviving, Healing, and Evolving

 

will arrive in August!! 

 

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Quote of the Week

June 10, 2018

 

"We are stars wrapped in skin, the light we are seeking has always been within."

Rumi

Islamic mystic, poet, and scholar

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Quote of the Month

June

"At the root of this dilemma is the way we view mental health in this country.  Whether an illness affects your heart, your leg, or your brain, it's still an illness, and there should be no distinction."

 

 

Michelle Obama

 

FLOTUS FOREVER

 

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Quote of the Week

April 1, 2018

 

"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."

Rev. Dr. Martin

Luther King, Jr.,

Human rights

activist and martyr

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Quote of the Month

April

"She knew wonderful simples for ailments of body and soul, and bound up both in earthy ointments."

Lillian Smith

Author(1949)

 

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Quote of the Week 

 

March 24, 2018

 

"You're going to

 

struggle, so surround

 

yourself with people you

 

trust."

 

King T'Chaka to

 

King T'Challa

 

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Quote of the Month

 

March, 2018

 

"The Black Panther

 

Party was not a 

 

gang.  They grew

 

 out of a young

 

Black intelligensia on

 

college campuses."

 

Bobby Seale

 

 Co-founder of the

 

Black Panther Party

 

 

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Quote of the Week

 

February 4, 2018

 

"Grab the broom of

 

anger, and drive off the

 

beast of fear."  

 

Zora Neale Hurston,

Author & Anthropologist

 

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Quote of the Week

January 27, 2018

 

Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time.  If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday."  

Wilma Rudolph,

Olympic Goal Medalist

 

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Quote of the Week

January 21, 2018

 

"The secret of getting ahead is getting started."

Mark Twain, 

Author and humorist

 

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Quote of the Week

January 14 , 2018

 

"As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you the first time around."

 

Oprah Winfrey,

Media Mogul

 

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Quote of the Week

January 7, 2018

 

"There is no force equal to a woman determined to rise."

 

Dr. W.E. B. DuBois

Scholar Extraordinaire

 

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Quote of the Week

January 1, 2018

 

New beginnings, y'all! Another year, another opportunity to become who we came here to be. Let's focus on discovering the tools and strategies we need to move forward.  Then, each and EVERY single day, let's try to use those strategies.  It might not be easy, but it will sure be worth it!"

Dr. Rhonda Sherrod

Soul Survivor

 

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Quote of the Month

January, 2018

 

"Trust yourself.  Think for yourself.  Act for yourself. Speak for yourself.  Be yourself. Imitation is suicide.",

Marva Collins, 

Highly-esteemed teacher

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"I am a woman -- gorgeously designed, brilliant, charming, mysterious, funny, bewitching, cool, and, most of all, uniquely purposed. I am my own phenomenal being, and I own and govern myself!"

 

 Dr. Rhonda Sherrod

QUOTE FOR THE SOUL:

 

"Dipped in Chocolate, Bronzed in Elegance, Enameled with Grace, Toasted with Beauty.

My Lord, She's a Black Woman." 

 

Dr. Yosef

Ben-Jochannan 

GET TO KNOW YOURSELF

BE TRUE TO YOURSELF

 

What makes you happy?

LOVE YOURSELF

BE AN ORIGINAL!

DO WHAT YOU CAME INTO THE WORLD TO DO.  

FIND YOUR PURPOSE, SO YOU CAN BE HAPPY!

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